The use of the word victim may sound dramatic, but in fact, you can be a victim of your own nervousness. The word victim can also mean a person who is tricked or duped, so yes, your nervousness can, in fact, trick you into thinking that you are not in control and that your nervousness is in control. That is what we call fake news. To define nervousness, let’s break down the definition of nervousness first. To be nervous is to be unnaturally or acutely uneasy or apprehensive. To be nervous is to be highly excitable. Nervousness is when a person is in the state of being nervous. This basically means a person that is constantly or consistently nervous.
Now that we’ve gotten an understanding of what nervousness is, it is important to realize the term nervousness has familiar synonyms that include; anxiety, stress, worry, uneasiness, apprehension, etc. You may be familiar with one or many of those synonyms. The biggest aspect to remember is that nervousness is a state or quality of being. Similar to saying someone is anxious or stressed. There are signs of nervousness to look out for. Being aware of what the signs are, and specifically paying attention to signs of nervousness that you may be experiencing, can prevent you from becoming a victim of your own nervousness.
Symptoms of Nervousness Include:
- Sleep problems
- Shortness of breath
- Tense muscles
- Sweaty palms
So how do you know if you’re a victim of your own nervousness? Well, does your nervousness interrupt your day to the point where you can not get things accomplished? Does your nervousness cause you to be irritable or have difficulty concentrating? Are you isolating yourself from friends and family due to your nervousness? These are alarming signs that you may be falling victim to your nervousness. Do not fret because you don’t have to stay victim to something that many people struggle with. It’s all about discovering the best ways to master your nervousness so that you can run your life, not the other way around.
Tips for Mastering Nervousness:
- Deep breathing- When you are feeling nervousness, try to sit down, take a deep breath and close your eyes. Focus on your breath as it moves in and out of your body. Sitting and breathing for even just a minute can help.
- Get to the root- Reflect on what is making you nervous in the first place. Is it a person, place, or thing? What is triggering your nervousness and what can you do to eliminate the trigger?
- Get some rest- Sleep deprivation can increase your nervousness and impact your ability to deal with nervousness. Sleep gives the body’s neurons a chance to shut down and repair themselves. Committing to healthy sleep over the long term can help reduce your nervousness.
- Physical activity- Physical exercise regulates hormones, decreasing the amount of adrenaline produced within the body, which can help control levels of nervousness. Another bonus to physical exercise is the release of endorphins, the “feel-good” neurotransmitters, that improve your mood.
- Find your inner confidence- What makes you stand up tall and strut your stuff? Discover your inner confidence and use it to get through difficult times in which you are the most nervous. When you believe in yourself, it can get you a long way.
- Practice makes perfect- Practice, practice, practice! Nervousness is real and it takes a lot to master techniques to decrease or eliminate your nervousness. It will not happen overnight, but it can happen. Discover what works for you and practice using them on a daily basis. If your nervousness is consistent then so must the fight against it. Reach out to your support system, others that struggle like you, and even a professional if necessary. You do not have to do it alone!
If you’re a victim of your nervousness it is time to take your life back. No more letting your nervousness rule you, you are the boss and you are in charge!